Shame Can Destroy a Person’s Life Shame is a devastating emotion which can destroy a person’s life if allowed to persist. Feeling ashamed of what they’ve done, thought, felt, or fantasized about can lead a person to give up on themselves—to withdraw and isolate themselves from others, to sabotage their goals and dreams because they feel unworthy, to beat themselves up with constant negative self-talk and accusations. Left untreated, shame will fester in the subconscious mind and rob a person of their self-respect, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, and self-care. Suffering from shame often causes depression, self-loathing, and sometimes even a desire to escape the only way they know how—to commit suicide..
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Apr
2024
Emotional Regulation Some adult clients coming for help to heal their wounded Inner Child want to become less harsh, less negative and less defensive in their immediate reactions to feeling mistreated. If you identify with that goal, this module is for you. An employee can easily gain a bad reputation as a “hothead” or a “b____”. Word of their behavior spreads easily and can alienate people who then don’t want to work with that person. Getting a reputation for being difficult can happen overnight. Living down that reputation could take months, if not years. Blowing up at a colleague or responding sarcastically is never a good tactic for communicating.
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Mar
2024
What is Road Rage? Road rage is hostile, aggressive, or angry behavior that motorists direct towards others out of frustration or impatience. These behaviors include rude and verbal insults, obscene gestures, yelling, physical threats or dangerous driving methods targeted at other drivers, pedestrians or cyclists in an effort to intimidate them or express their exasperation. No matter what the reason, there is never a justification for allowing yourself to take out your negative emotions on others with whom you share the road. Whether you are late for work, driving your wife to the hospital to give birth, trying to catch the last flight out to Singapore, or just in.
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Dec
2023
Just had one of the last birthdays in my 70’s. (Gulp! My 80’s are just around the corner.) And to add injury to insult, less than two weeks before Turkey Day, I fractured my elbow….on my dominant arm. But I was lucky. No excruciating pain. Only some– mild and intermittent. As the medical technician painted me in a plexiglass cast from my wrist to my elbow, I started fretting about the challenges ahead, like driving home. Not to mention living alone. It’s a lot harder to manage everyday tasks with only your non-dominant hand, like taking a shower, getting dressed, doing dishes, and opening cans. (I must have a right-handed.
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Oct
2023
Self-sabotage Is Puzzling Why would someone intentionally undermine their success in achieving their goals and living their dreams? Sounds crazy, doesn’t it? You would think it would be just the opposite–intentionally taking constructive action to achieve that success, wouldn’t you? The Reason Most People Self-Sabotage The truth of the matter is, unless a person seeks to punish themself (for whatever reason) and chooses to do so by intentionally acting in a subversive way, the reason why the majority of people self-sabotage is for self-protection. They are fearful of something they believe achieving their goal (or even trying to achieve it) would bring about. One female client (75 pounds overweight and.
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Aug
2023
Introduction In this part of the 2-part blog post “Managing Social Anxiety with Hypnosis,” I introduce social anxiety as a common and troubling emotion that interferes with, if not makes impossible, a social phobic’s successful living and the satisfaction of a wide variety of their human needs. The Purpose of Emotions Do you wonder why we humans have emotions? Do you sometimes think life would be simpler without them? We have emotions for more than just to give people something besides politics, sports, food and the arts to talk about or to provide screenwriters with script material. As with everything else in our human makeup, emotions exist to keep us.
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Jul
2023
Introduction In “Managing Social Anxiety – Part 1” I introduced social anxiety as a common and troubling emotion that interferes with, if not makes impossible, a social phobic’s successful living and the satisfaction of a wide variety of their human needs. Here in Part 2 of that blog post, I discuss Exposure Therapy and explain how hypnosis enhances the ease and effectiveness of that therapy to overcome social anxiety, as well as other fears. Exposure Therapy A number of approaches have been tried over the centuries to overcome the difficulties that our fears present to us. Consider, for instance, what happens with Exposure Therapy in the context of dealing with fears.
09
Nov
2022
Call for Research Interview Subjects Are you sabotaging yourself in some areas of your life? Finances, education, relationships, health, career, or personal growth? If so, do you know what are the ways you sabotage yourself? By procrastinating, being a perfectionist, worrying excessively or fearing failure? Those are just a few common ones. If you are struggling with self-defeating behavior, any opportunity to help you stop so you can get what you want in life is something I am passionate about. I’m investigating an online course idea to support adults who undermine their goals and dreams but aren’t sure what to do about it. I’d love to speak with you to find out.
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Sep
2022
What is Perfectionism? In short, perfectionism is striving to be flawless in every way. And for the perfectionist, making a mistake is never acceptable. Perfectionists never see errors as opportunities for learning, but as reasons for getting down on themselves or punishing themselves. A perfectionistic tennis player who misses an easy forehand might deliberately hit himself on the thigh with his racquet. An excellent player accepts the flub and immediately prepares for the next shot. A potter who demands perfection of herself might throw her work-in-progress against the wall when she notices a tiny bubble forming. It’s no surprise that perfectionists are hard to get along with. For one thing,.
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