In the blog post “How Do I Procrastinate? Let Me Count The Ways” I suggested that to overcome your procrastination you need to know the ways that you procrastinate. I suggested that there are various ways people procrastinate: some delay getting started on the project, some go great guns until they near the finish, and some dawdle and dither along the way. I also discussed some other ways: second guessing yourself, dwelling on the past, beating yourself up, overcommitting, worrying excessively, and striving for perfection. In this post, I suggest that to overcome your procrastination, you also need to understand why you do it. You need to figure out.
Not everyone who procrastinates does so in the same way. Some people delay getting started on a project or task; others begin eagerly and with enthusiasm, but somewhere in the process, they stall. Perhaps they face a problem they struggle to solve but can’t seem to (or at least not soon enough for their liking). Still others dabble, doing a little now and then (e.g. some more this week or month or even a year from now), sandwiching their efforts between dawdling on all sorts of other goals. And then there are those who get going right away, maintain a steady pace, make progress by taking constructive action consistently…until they.
Procrastination: Widespread Among Us Procrastination is arguably the most common form of self-sabotage. And not just among “losers”. Some of the most accomplished people of all time delay(ed) their goals for no good reason. Author Truman Capote, architect Frank Lloyd Wright, and artist/inventor Leonardo da Vinci rank high among them. Recent studies suggest that among adults, 15-20% of adults chronically procrastinate and 25% consider procrastination to be one of their defining personality traits. Among college students, procrastination is even more widespread: 80-95% procrastinate to some degree, around 70% regard themselves as procrastinators, and about 50% say that their procrastination is consistent and problematic. Does knowing that comfort you? Does it.
On July 17, 2020, BusinessTalkRadio1.com’s Christopher Roberts hosted the first of four radio interviews I will be giving to discuss my role as a certified clinical hypnotherapist and self-help coach who empowers teens and adults worldwide to stop sabotaging their goals and start achieving them. (Three other interviews are to be scheduled for September or October, 2020; announcements will be posted in this blog.) To listen now, click here: https://businesstalkradio1.com/ellen-r-coleman-07-17-20-hypnotherapist/ Self-sabotage is any behavior, conscious or not, that hinders rather than promotes goals. For example, if Susan parties excessively the night before she takes the Law School Admission and gets a low score, she sabotages her chances of getting into.
Since late May, when many state governments relaxed their health guidelines and re-opened to some degree or other, there’s been a significant uptick in COVID-19 cases in more than 30 states. Let’s not kid ourselves. We are still living in very challenging times when incessant broadcasts of grim unemployment statistics and death tolls stoke intense fear and high anxiety. After being cooped up at home virtually 24/7, deprived of so much we enjoy doing, it’s easy to abandon relaxation techniques such as self-hypnosis, deep breathing, physical exercise, and meditation in favor of a super quick-fix to feel better fast : self-soothing with junk food and alcohol. Partying with others on.
It’s The Most Wonderful Time of the Year! Really? Surely you’ve heard that lyric. It’s the title of the ever popular Christmas song Andy Williams first recorded in 1963. Since then, many notable crooners have regaled us with their renditions–Johnny Mathis, Harry Connick Jr., Patti LaBelle, Garth Brooks, and the Pentatonix–celebrating many of the activities associated with the Winter Holiday Season: “…parties for hosting…marshmallows for toasting…caroling out in the snow…gay happy meetings…holiday greetings…friends coming to call…” If your spirit soars as Thanksgiving nears and you remain high on the holidays through New Year’s, good for you. Enjoy yourself to the max! You deserve it. We all do. But for too many.
Hot Buttons for Self-Doubt As you strive to attain your goals and dreams, there are bound to be times when you suffer self-doubt. “Can I really make a living doing what I love? Am I smart enough? Talented enough? In my search for a loving partner, do I have the grit to face rejection, to get through the dry spells, and never give up?” Having self-doubt is more the norm than an aberration. An estimated 70% of people experience the “imposter syndrome” at some point in their lives. And a whopping 85% of people around the world are affected by low-self esteem. So instead of stigmatizing yourself for having it,.
Do you obsessively wonder whether you or your work is good enough? Do you often worry that you don’t have what it takes to succeed in your chosen field? Are you constantly afraid that you can’t have a happy marriage (and family) and make a good living doing what you love? If so, you are grappling with self-doubt. But you’re certainly not alone. It might help you to know that some of the most famous, successful, and revered artists (Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, and Vincent Van Gogh), writers (John Steinbeck, Edith Wharton, George Eliot), and even presidents (George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, and John F. Kennedy) suffered self-doubt. Obviously, that emotion.
Valentine’s Day is not just a day for celebrating romantic love between two lovers. It also is a day for celebrating self-love, which Ernest Holmes defines in his book The Science of Mind as “the self-givingness of spirit”. To my mind this is an act of taking some of self and putting it into a new context and expressing in a new way. It’s like breaking off a piece of yourself to regenerate as something else that is beautiful or intelligent, compassionate, soothing, helpful, fascinating, creative, humorous, or caring. To my mind, this is how oneness becomes more than oneness. This is what unfolding is. As a recovering self-saboteur, Valentine’s Day.